I have heard this question a thousand times in my life. I could ask the same about women. But I am going to focus on the men. Maybe just maybe a few will understand.
You the good men give everything and in time learned to ask for nothing. I am going to talk about my life and what I have been through in my life.
I was born in 1954. To two drinks. They would stay drunk most of the time. Neither one of them would work and if they did get a job it did not last long because they could not stay sober. So I had to learn to take care of myself and my younger sister. So you see I have took care of myself all my life.
No I am not the only one that has lived this way. As I grew up I was used and abused until I reached the age of 14 when I left home. Thing is I stayed in the same town where they lived and needless to say they never came looking for me. At least until I went into the army. I guess they thought they could get something out of it.
After I got out of the army I guess I thought things would be different when I got married. I done everything I could to make sure that I was better than the ones I had to grow up with. I worked hard and done everything I could to take care of my family. In short I gave everything. But it did not work out she left and took everything.
After we go through years and years of being used and took advantage of we finally give up because we finally learn that no matter how hard we try and no matter how much we give nothing is going to change.
Are we perfect? No we are not. We make mistakes just like everyone else. But we don’t give up. When we fall we get up and keep going. And yes I know there are women that have gone through the same thing. The thing is some women learn to be like others and we have less good women and yes some men do the same thing.
So where does it stop? When you ask that question take a good look in the mirror and see yourself as the world sees you. Am I going to change who and what I am? No I know what I am. I am one that gives all and ask for nothing. If I have to beg then I feel like I am not worth anything to her.
As of now I am to old the try any more so I guess you could say I have given up. Lol but it took 68 years to get here.
So before you ask the question think about what you are giving and how much you are taking in the relationship. It is always a two way street. The world does not revolve around me or you. If you are not willing to give then why should you expect to receive anything from him or her.
If this helps please drop me a line and pass it on to someone that needs to hear this.
God bless each and everyone that reads this.